Whether it’s a co-worker who always cuts in front of you at meetings or a boss who wants to micromanage, there are different ways to phrase negative personalities in order to avoid confrontation.
“When having a negative run-in with someone, the challenge is to find the right words to describe them without being destined to escalate things into a conflict,” said Brian Wansink, author of Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think.
Wansink’s co-author, Tim Seidell, an etiquette expert at Cornell University told ABC News that
“it’s important that you’re not just throwing around labels and trying to be hurtful.” Find out what he calls the “right way” to describe a person — whether it’s their personality or appearance — before you start in on them. You’ll save yourself from unnecessary conflict.
What is the correct way to describe people in a negative light?
I don’t care for people who act entitled and think they’re better than everyone else. They always end up being a pain in the neck.
There is no one “correct” way to describe people in a negative light, but there are a few tips that can help you come up with an effective insult.
- Use a phrase that accurately describes the person’s personality trait. For example, if the person is rude, call them rude. If they are arrogant, call them arrogant.
- Use words that the person would be unlikely to hear well coming from someone else. For example, calling someone a “liar” is an effective insult because most people would find it difficult to lie convincingly and often get caught when they do lie.
- Be creative! There are no rules when it comes to insults, so feel free to come up with your own phrases that describe the person in a negative light.
How can we make people more enjoyable?
People can be enjoyable to be around when they have good qualities. If someone has qualities that make them enjoyable, it is easy to enjoy being around them. There are a few things that you can do to make people more enjoyable to be around.
First, try to find out what makes the person happy. This may seem like a simple thing to do, but often we take things for granted. When you know what makes someone happy, you can help them to find fulfilment in life. You can also help them to meet new people and make new friends.
Second, be yourself. We all have different personalities, so don’t try to act like someone else. If you are genuine and authentic, the person will appreciate it. They will also be less likely to want to change who you are.
Finally, make sure that you listen attentively. People appreciate when we listen attentively and pay attention to what they are saying. This allows for open communication and builds trust between two people.
How to make yourself more enjoyable?
If you find yourself disliking people, resist the temptation to hatchet them in your head. Instead, try to see the good in them and focus on what they can offer you. Here are some tips for describing people that you dislike in a positive way:
- Put yourself in their shoes. What would you want someone to do for you?
- Focus on their strengths. What do they bring to the table?
- Talk about how they’ve helped you or influenced your life. Or ask them how they’ve helped other people. Make sure you’re describing everything in a positive light and avoiding any negative labels. If you can do that, people will see the good in you when they hear about your positive descriptions. You’ll be on the way to becoming more enjoyable too! Someone who is ‘not fun’, ‘boring’ or ‘tedious’ is going to have trouble making others feel that way too, so it’s easier to describe yourself in a positive light than it is for someone else.
- Be more focused on what you bring to the table and leave the hatchet-wielding to the hatchet-wielders. We don’t want to bore anyone with rambling lists of information about ourselves (although we do have a few for you to check out if you’re interested). We just want to help people see their best selves. Remember this?
What personality traits are people who you dislike typically associated with?
People who you dislike typically have a personality type that is different from yours. They may be direct and outspoken, or they may be nosy and intrusive. Regardless of their actual personality, these people are often perceived as unpleasant.
However, it’s important to remember that everyone has their own unique set of qualities and abilities. You can still appreciate the good qualities in people who you dislike, even if they don’t share your same personality type. For example, you might admire their sense of adventure or determination. In this way, you can still describe them in a positive way without putting them down. You can also express your frustration with them in a non- offensive way, for example by refusing to help them and/or ignoring them. Learn more about the personality types Quiz:
Do You Match the Personality Types?
What traits should you focus on to make people like you more and vice versa. There are many different ways to describe people that we dislike in a positive way. One approach is to focus on the things that make them stand out from the crowd. For example, if someone is intelligent, creative, or successful, you might consider complimenting their intelligence or creativity. On the other hand, if someone is socially awkward or unkempt, you might focus on their unique qualities instead. For example, you could say that they are genuine and honest.
How can we be better at building personal relationships?
You may dislike people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a positive relationship with them. Here are a few tips to help you do just that:
- Don’t be afraid to be direct. If you don’t like someone, say so. Let them know what it is that your position and avoid making any further mistakes.
- Be respectful. No matter how much you may dislike someone, always show them respect. Remember that they are human too, and deserve your consideration.
- Avoid personal attacks. It’s not worth it to get into an argument with someone you don’t like. Stick to constructive criticism instead.
- Take some time for yourself. Sometimes it’s hard to be objective when we’re close to someone we don’t like, but try to remember that they are also people with feelings and emotions just like you. Give them the benefit of the doubt and focus on yourself for a while! 5. Show consideration. Do not be disrespectful to others and make sexist remarks, or make someone feel uncomfortable in any way.6. Be sensitive to other’s feelings. Don’t just dismiss someone’s concerns because they are annoying you, as this can cause unnecessary stress on the person concerned and their friends/family members.7. Stay cool! Don’t let your temper get the better of you when things don’t go your way or when there is tension between you and another member of staff or a student.8. Be open-minded. No matter how hard it may be to do so at first, remember that everyone makes mistakes and gets angry sometimes, even though you may disagree with them over silly things like something as small as clashing with
If you find it hard to be positive about people you dislike, start by understanding why these people bother you. By understanding their motivations, you can begin to see them in a more nuanced light and begin to enjoy their company less. In the end, your dislike for someone will only become less intense if you understand it. In a world in which the media and politicians focus on the negative aspects of politics and life, understanding your dislike will be essential to living a happier life.
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